Openness

I wanted to write a little bit about our adoption situation and the wonderful new people who will always be apart of our family.
In the last two weeks I have had 2 baby showers for this little miracle that will be coming to our family. The Birth mom Brittany and her Grandmother Helen attended both. I know we received a lot of raised eyebrows from people wondering if I was putting myself in a position of getting hurt or if I was putting Brittany and her family and a difficult spot. I have had numerous amounts of people asking about our relationship with Brittany and how we are able to deal with that. Well let me tell you a little bit about our story and our relationship with this amazing young lady!
Yes, we have a very open relationship with Brittany and her family. We couldn't ask for a better situation. We enjoy spending lots of time with her and texting on almost a daily basis back and forth. My intentions in forming this relationship is to not only get to know Brittany for Masons sake but to be able to give Brittany the reassurance that she made a good decision, help support her, be a strength to her, and let her know that everything will be all right.
Brittany is the very strong silent type. She is very quiet but can also be very feisty when she wants to be. I don't know anyone that has been through the things she has and stands as strong as she does. People kept asking me after the showers, is she ok with being around all this, she seemed really sad? When I here that I feel like I have to defend my decision in having her there. We talk on a very open dialog and I know that it's obviously a wake up call to whats going on when you have someone else opening presents for your baby. Another reason why we love this girl is she is so supportive of us and has shown genuine interest and excitement with us along the way.
We made a deal that if anything makes her feel uncomfortable or she becomes to overwhelmed then she is more then welcome to step out or leave or whatever she needs to do. I would never put her in a position that makes her feel that way. I leave it up to her and what she can handle. So to answer the question that I'm sure everyone is thinking or has asked, she has been handling it very well! She wasn't even a bit sad, more just tired and sick of this awful heat we have had!

She has already put her in the position of thinking this child is not hers but ours. I would imagine in her situation that you would have to to be able to cope with your desicion and thats a good way to do it. At the shower we had in Logan I wanted everyone to write down their favorite essential item they love for their children and a bit of advice. I told Brittany, "Come on I want something from you to, he's your child!" Her Grandmother was very quick to say, "NO, he's not hers!"(in a loving kind way only grandmas can do). I thought about it for a second and said fine "our" baby. I can't grasp the fact that hes ours and not hers. He will always be hers but will be ours as well. This makes me think of that awful yet amazing few days we will have at the hospital when he's born. I know that there will be angels watching carefully over all of us and the spirit will be strong. It breaks my heart knowing what she is going to do. It aches so much for her knowing that she is placing this amazing baby into the care of someone else for Eternity. I can't even imagine what she will be facing emotionally. It is going to be a very emotionally draining day that will include peace, fear, happiness, sorrow and any other emotion that comes with it. I just know that it is going to be a very hard day and I'm not sure how I'm going to be happy knowing what Brittany will be doing for us. There is no other act of selflessness and love that anyone else could give us. These Women are such an inspiration to me and an amazing lesson on pure love, and strength. These Women deserve the most amazing blessings that our Heavenly Father can give them. I know for a fact that Brittany has and will have the choicest of Angels watching over her and some how will find strength and get through this.

All in all we have a wonderful extended family that will be joining us! The openness works for us in this situation but I'm sure it will be different with each Birth mom. The amazing thing about adoption is that it is truly the most spiritually guiding time in your life. It has been amazing to see everything fall into place. You are led and directed on how to handle each thing that arises. I feel confident and peaceful about the way we have handled things with Brittany and wouldn't change a thing.

We are expecting a phone call any day saying, get down here my water broke! She has 2 1/2 weeks left but he is turned and all the way down ready to go. We will keep everyone posted on the happenings as they come!

Thank you so much to everyone for your love and support. It means the world to Lance and I. We couldn't get through this with out it!

3 Long dreadfully good years

Lance and I hit mile marker 3 today! We had a terribly romantic day.
I woke up to find a Thank You card that Lance had wrote sweet loving words to me which also led me on a scavenger hunt all over the house and to the mail box, where I found a card and specialty chocolate telling me all the different things he loves about me. Que the Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh card........ Thanks I know, so romantic! Later I took him on a special date out to dinner. I drove him to Ogden and we enjoyed a delicious dinner at GoodWood BBQ. A little store called Sephora caught my eye on the way out and all I had to do was bat my eyes. We looked around for a bit and I was very good and didn't spend a penny! We also stopped at a sporting goods store just to make it fair. We also did not spend a penny there! Funny enough we finished the evening with making a pit stop at Wal-mart to buy a box of diapers! Hey we may as well get use to it now!
Thanks for a crazy amazing 3 years my Scubby Whiz Water( Lance made that nickname up for himself, and insist I call him that)! I love you and wouldn't trade you for nothin!

First Encounter

Meet Brittany! This is our very cute, adorable, quiet, and sweet little, and I mean little, Birth Mom. Lance and I had the opportunity of meeting Brittany since she had told us she picked us the week before. I was absolutely a basket case of nerves and just talked excitedly and loudly. I tend to do that when I'm nervous. Lance of course was cool and collective like the suave man he is. Brittany is as shy as they come but very cute. She is a very pint size 5'3. The Birth Dad we know is about 5'5 blonde hair blue eyes. It's safe to say that little Mason Bee Dickey is going to be a tiny squirt. She is due August 6th but Lance and I think she may deliver early. Meeting her was a really neat experience. We just sat and talked for about an hour and a half about all the details of everything. From here on out we get to know each other more, with the 11 weeks(or so)we have left. Were excited to go down to Salt Lake next week and enjoy dinner with Brittany and her Grandparents. That's all folks ;)

Correction!

I just needed to put a quick correction in. The baby's due date is August 6th but she is measuring at 30 cm so she may only have 10 weeks left! That means a birthday present for me! She goes in on the 20th to find out for sure! Thanks everybody for the support! Everyone is telling me to enjoy my sleep now but I'm to excited to sleep!

Today was a very good day! Our caseworker wanted to meet with us about some things, when she told us this it didn't sound good. I was worried we were gonna get some bad news as we went in. We sat down and talked for a moment then she pulls out this blue bag and said well I just wanted to tell you congratulations! I was shocked and not sure what was going on then I looked through the bag and was like "OH MY GOODNESS!!" Then I looked at my caseworker like what the heck is happening and she said Brittany picked you to be the parents! We were so happy and of course still are! I am so emotionally exhausted today becuase this was huge! It has all happened so fast. Our profile has only been up since February. We have only been speaking with Brittany for about a month and a half. We will be bringing this little blessing home in August! So soon, a 3 month pregnancy I say is the way to do it! We get to meet Brittany next week and will continue to meet with her to get to know her more and make her apart of our family!